I have spent many years in the health and wellness community. There is no doubt that our spiritual emotional wellbeing contributes to our physical wellbeing.
That being said, I have studied many different works on the healing and growth of the inner self in relation to physical discomfort, illness, perceptions of pain etc.
Here are some thoughts on the topic of Shame and Our True Essence.
All are one
All are of the light and love
All have a choice in this world.
We are all born with a desire to belong, and to be a part of something larger than us.
Shame is defined as the loss of the true self, separation from self and others, separation from essence.
Shame is separation.
Suffering is an experience of separation.
The personality is not our essence.
Personality develops as an attempt at acceptance in our environment so our desire to belong is met.
Personality develops through our 1st attempts to express the self through emotion and language. The way people respond to us in our childhood (typically before the age of 7) is what shapes the unconscious behaviors to satisfy the need for belonging.
We begin to think “this is what I need to be” or “this is so me” all in an attempt for acceptance, to be seen and loved. To be a part of the whole.
But the quest for many becomes inverted and a false self develops.
Inner work and integration of the self have 2 difficult requirements:
1. See layers in yourself that ultimately bring injury; take accountability. You chose this as your best attempt for survival.
2. Be willing to acknowledge and feel the injuries that created these layers and use that energy to see the true self underneath, transform it without fear of loss. There is no loss in truth. Look into your own light, see who and what you really are.
Each of us carries a gift unique to the self that is needed by the other. "We are members belonging to the same body". But none of these gifts can ever be truly shared unless they are known and accepted by each of the people involved. Unless each one is concious of their gifts it will become an interchange of giving without receiving. This is life out of balance, one of the elements that contributes to suffering and illness.
Feel it to heal it:
Emotional conflict is not the cause of suffering; emotions are signals of the separation that has occurred from our true essence. Emotions are messengers from the unconscious trying to guide you back home to unity. Many emotions are born from the core wound that caused us to split and fill the gap (or deficiency) with something critically untrue to the self. The idea that love can be earned is something developed and one of the complexities through which we create a false identity and thus suffering.
Endless lies are then created within the self by the alter ego as the lifetime goes on. Until one makes the active choice to seek, ponder, develop and unite.
All roads lead to the same place.
All approaches for self help, self care, personal integration, inner growth, awareness you name it are techniques trying to guide you back to what you really are, the true self, the true essence,
The Truth.
All suffering can be undone with the undoing of shame. The knowing of oneself. Look around and see the creator. You the created are part of that marvelous Awe.
The opposite of shame is unity; living as one of the many parts of the greater I Am.
And thus we come full circle.
What’s next in your jouney?
With love and gratitude,
Jenine
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